Uyen, my wife, was my
first Facebook friend. That makes sense—especially
considering that she walked me through the process of joining Facebook. I recall whimpering about how silly “friending”
and “liking” was as she tried to explain the whole process.
“What? Are we back in seventh grade here?” I
groused.
“You’ll get used to all
this,” she assured me. “And now you will
be able to see what Helen is up to. She
posts on Facebook all the time.” My wife
turned out to be correct about that (read everything here). Through Facebook, I recently found out that
my daughter—after returning from the Olympics in Rio—has become a marathon
runner!
After helping me set-up
my profile, Uyen sent me the very first friend request I ever received and
showed me how to accept.
My first friend!
That was back in 2009, if
memory serves. We soon began posting
back and forth.
Uyen passed in May of
2011. I didn’t pay much attention to
Facebook for a while after that. Gradually,
I worked my way back in. Eventually, I
began sharing these daily blogs.
Somewhere, about a year
after Uyen’s death I decided to view her profile and I realized that she was no
longer among my Facebook friends.
She was gone.
I was only able to access
Uyen’s profile though Helen’s profile or by searching.
I did not unfriend
her. What happened?
I continued to view her profile—especially
on her birthday or on the date of her passing.
I even tried to seize administration of her profile on her computer,
hoping I could share a post every so often.
Then, about two years ago, with tears in my eye, I sent her a friend
request.
I knew it would never be
answered, but I feel better having it out there in the ether.
I never wanted to stop
being her friend.
--Mitchell
Hegman
Do you by chance have her sign in information? We knew my sons' so I was able to keep his account active and he's still " my friend" and I can post on his page if I choose. FB will only either cancel the account if you ask, or "memorialize" it, in which case the account would not accept new friends. But you could manage the account if you knew her login info. I found pics on Matt's page that I had never seen. It was like finding treasure. 💙
ReplyDeleteI tried all kinds of sign-in information. She had written down a few things before passing and had a few things on her computer. Nothing I tried worked. Sigh.
ReplyDeleteGads you are such a special person and only deserve the best. I how you can find her. My friend Jonathan passed a while ago but I still have his Facebook page. I post on it from time to time I wonder if that is why he is still my friend
ReplyDeleteGads you are such a special person and only deserve the best. I how you can find her. My friend Jonathan passed a while ago but I still have his Facebook page. I post on it from time to time I wonder if that is why he is still my friend
ReplyDeleteThanks, Anna. I am really mystified about how I ended up on the outside with Uyen. I may try to see about becoming an administrator for her profile.
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